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dee
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Posted - May 13 2008 :  10:27:25 PM  Show Profile Send dee a Private Message
I'm married over 30 years. I'm Roman Cathoic, husband is Dutch Reformed - but no longer practicing this faith. When we married he promised to raise our children in my fath (RC) - which he did. He has understood from the beginning, but he is really beginning to understand our faith and he loves our Holy Mother - truly - he believes in our faith and dogma - finally... but finds it hard and sometimes intimatidating to fully convert. The questions and material that is covered in converting is truly hard for him - yet he believes. I don't push or nag, but I don't know the answers to help him complete this beautiful journey which we all are continuing. Does anyone know where I can continue to help? RICA is good... but I think that we (his family) is the key.

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dsmm
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Posted - May 14 2008 :  11:14:47 AM  Show Profile Send dsmm a Private Message
dee,
Sometimes a situation can be overwhelming because of the amount of material. Just take things one baby step at a time. A site that I have found useful is:
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Information I have found there has been helpful for me as a cradle Catholic, too.
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Tee
Mary's Servant



USA
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Posted - May 14 2008 :  2:48:00 PM  Show Profile Send Tee a Private Message
There is a site that I found helpful while I underwent my conversion that has free instruction in the faith.

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I have done all but one of the courses and am currently working on it. :) I love it.

~Tee

"they must seek to fulfill their daily duties, that is as mothers and wives in an exemplary manner of holiness by pursuing the contemplative life in their homes..." ~ 3rd basic tenet of Apostolate of Holy Motherhood
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JohnF
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USA
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Posted - May 14 2008 :  5:19:25 PM  Show Profile Send JohnF a Private Message
It's important for a spouse to understand why Catholicism is God's Official Church on Earth before converting.

After we were married for 15 years, my Lutheran wife went through RCIA and was Confirmed Catholic. Her RCIA instructors were new age Los Angeles heretics. So now, 20 years after her confirmation, she's still a pseudo-Lutheran-Catholic.

They failed. I'm still praying for a true, profound conversion.
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JRJ
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USA
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Posted - May 14 2008 :  8:09:52 PM  Show Profile Send JRJ a Private Message
You might point those seeking to understand the Faith to You must be logged in to see this link. Also the "Journey Home" show on EWTN (available in podcast free from You must be logged in to see this link.). The Coming Home Network has connections to serious converts from nearly all the protestant sects.

Jennifer Jaeger
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JohnF
Mary's Servant



USA
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Posted - May 15 2008 :  01:31:40 AM  Show Profile Send JohnF a Private Message
Coming Home looks like a great resource. Thanks!
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dee
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Posted - May 15 2008 :  9:14:36 PM  Show Profile Send dee a Private Message
Thanks everyone for your help and links! He does understand, and the material that was shown and given was a little overwhelming - he thought how am I going to learn everything in a short timeframe. I did chuckle at that and said, dear it is a life long journey - I'm still learning. He decided last fall that he felt ready, and then realized what would be covered. For us, things done simply works best. I asked him if he was doing this for me and the family, and he said yes and no... yes because he sees the happiness I experience in the sacraments and sees us always seeking and learning, and no, because he feels 'the pull' within himself. I've gotten information just recently in the mail, this week in fact, from Coming Home - will go back to that and check online as well - thanks for mentioning that. I'll also check the other links out with him... hopefully he'll see that it's ok and he can go at his own pace. I don't find in our parish anything that is new age, and love being there - excellent priests and deacons and true to the faith - our bishop is wonderful too. I've seen other churches - and where I'm at now is home. Also love going to the 'Blue Army Shrine' as well. Thanks again, and hope to have some good news to share!
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dee
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Posted - May 15 2008 :  9:17:09 PM  Show Profile Send dee a Private Message
Oh - I see my avatar changed - love it!!
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JohnF
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USA
428 Posts

Posted - May 16 2008 :  01:43:05 AM  Show Profile Send JohnF a Private Message
Texas man's retreat inspires entire family to convert from Baptist faith to Catholicism
By Cynthia Brewer
5/15/2008

VICTORIA, Texas - "I dropped my husband off at Assumption Catholic Church in preparation for his send off to an ACTS retreat last spring," said Tenna Genzer of Ganado, Texas. "That was where I said the words that I would soon have to eat."

ARRIVING HOME - The Genzer Family of Ganado is all smiles in their new home of faith at Assumption Catholic Church in Ganado. Their journey began when Ronnie Genzer attended an ACTS retreat and experienced a full conversion. Pictured is the family: Ronnie and Tenna, their 14-year-old daughter, Allyson; and 7-year-old twins Loren and Lance. The whole family entered the Catholic faith at the Easter Vigil on March 22, 2008.

"Don't even think we're going to become Catholic," she said to her husband, Ronnie, before saying good-bye to him for the weekend.

That was in May of 2007; a week later the whole family was active at Assumption Church, while Tenna cautiously yet excitedly studied everything about the Catholic faith that she could get her hands on.

Her husband returned from the ACTS retreat a changed man, Tenna said.

Their family has a Baptist background but had been going to a couple of different churches looking for that place they fit in best. Tenna thought she felt comfortable where they had been attending, but Ronnie always just sat in the pews cleaning his nails and occasionally nodding off, she said. He never paid much attention.

"But when Ronnie returned from the retreat, he couldn't stop talking about faith, his newfound faith," Tenna said. "That wasn't like him. That's all he talked about until our daughter, Allyson, hid in her bedroom," she said with a chuckle.

Quizzing the teachers

Ronnie and Tenna also have 7-year-old twins, Loren and Lance. The next day, Tenna began asking her children's teachers, who were Catholic, questions about the faith. A few staff she spoke to included Penny Bethel, Angela Petrash and Mike Sablatura. They helped explain a few things to her, but she still had questions, so she decided to talk to the man in charge, Father Michael Lyons, Assumption's pastor.

She said she wasn't nervous about talking with Father Michael until the six-foot, six-inch priest stood up to greet her. His size intimidated her at first, but she had some important things to discuss, so she began with her first question, "What did you do to my husband?"

It wasn't a bad thing; it was a beautiful thing. "I was raised to believe that Catholics were just above a cult and it surprised me that my husband had such a conversion," Tenna said.

Father Michael referred her to Scripture and to the Catholic Web site You must be logged in to see this link. She said that the first chance she had to get on a computer, she printed as much about the Catholic faith as she could.

'I had been deceived my whole life'

After just one day's study of the Catholic faith, she became enraged. But the rage wasn't directed against the Catholic teaching.

"I was enraged because I felt I had been deceived my whole life," she said, of what she'd been told about the Catholic Church.

She still wasn't sure about some Catholic teachings, such as the Eucharist, Mary, baptism and purgatory, but she didn't want to take Ronnie out of his newfound community, so they began attending Assumption Parish. "Everyone was so wonderful there, so inviting," she said.

However, when she heard that Catholics believe the Eucharist is the real body and blood of Christ, she thought her Catholic friends and her children's Catholic teachers were nuts. "I thought they were all loons," she said.

She continued reading about the Eucharist and was then invited with her daughter to come to the church's Life Teen XLT, where the Eucharist is adored. "I just asked Jesus if he was really present in the Eucharist; that night he definitely answered me," she said.

"For a couple of months I was obsessed with studying the faith," Tenna said. "I left the house cleaning everything got put on the back burner."

"Once I stopped fighting, I began to believe the Eucharist was really Christ," Tenna said. "And when I realized the Catholic Church was the only place I could get the Eucharist, it began to be easier to accept the rest of what the Church taught."

Awaiting the Easter Vigil

It took about six weeks, weekly Mass, attendance at the parish's Bible classes, and then Tenna was ready. "I went to the women's ACTS retreat in August and was then ready to begin the RCIA classes," she said.

By November, Tenna said she was ready to join the Church.

Father Michael said Tenna became almost angry when he told her she had to wait for the Easter Vigil to join the Church and receive her first Holy Communion. She was ready then and didn't want to wait.

"We wanted to make sure they had the full conversion experience, that it was truly their decision and not based on emotion," Father Michael said.

"The RCIA process is like the spiritual milk Scripture speaks of," he said. "That's what the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults is, the milk they're not ready for the meat and potatoes yet. You get brought along in your spiritual nourishment."

In the interview with Tenna the day before the Easter Vigil, she said it had been hard to wait for the Easter Vigil. "It has taken way too long. I couldn't wait, but now I'm scared to death," she said with excitement.

It was worth the wait though, for Tenna truly learned her faith, saying, "Through RCIA, Scripture study and Life Teen, I learned ...

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dsmm
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USA
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Posted - May 16 2008 :  8:09:15 PM  Show Profile Send dsmm a Private Message
dee,
I, personally, am thrilled that your husband can see the happiness that your faith brings you and he wants that for himself. Many people don't get to witness that. Like you said, your Catholic faith is a lifelong journey. I, most likely like you, was baptised as a baby and atteneded Catholic grade school (with the nuns) and college with the friars. I went to a public high school but had to attend religion classes on Monday nights. I am still learning things about my faith that I could swear NO ONE ever told me and I am 53 years old! That means 53 years of learning my faith and I still don't have it all down!! Tell hubby that this isn't a race and to just take it one baby step at a time if that is what he feels comfortable with. God understands that we humans are weak. But He is with us every single step of the way.
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